Thursday, August 30, 2007

Are you the real problem?

Hi Everyone,

I was re-reading an interesting book called "365 Ways to Become a Millionaire" by Brian Koslow.

In this gem is one of my favorite passages on relationships...

"One way to really know if you are excellent is to look around you and see if all your close relationships are excellent. The one person all of these relationships have in common is you."


Think about it! If you cannot get along with people, maybe it's you that has the issue. Now that you know, do something about it.

Until next time...
Peter
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Friday, August 17, 2007

The "Dog" will teach you how to change your life!

Hi Everyone,

If you want to read a book that sure to inspire you to go for your goals, no matter where you are in your life...then get a copy of "You Can Run, But You Can't Hide" by Duane "Dog" Chapman.



"Dog" was a badly abused kid, thief, gang member, murderer, and turned out to be a major philanthropist and international celebrity.

No need for hokey, pray-to-the-heavens, new age books - read "You Can Run, But You Can't Hide" and find out how anyone, including you, can make major life change!

Until next time...
Peter
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Monday, August 06, 2007

Mommy finally reveals her secrets to becoming a "millionaire!"

Hi Everyone,

If you ever had an idea for a product and wondered how to take it to market using a step-by-step process...read "Mommy Millionaire" by Kim Lavine.



This book is well-written and is among the BEST business books I've ever read. Kim has to be one of the most pragmatic, down-to-earth businesspeople I've ever read about. She beat incredible odds to become a millionaire in a few short years.

Unlike the typical vague, theoretically-driven, business books you find - Kim talks about the ups, downs, and everything in between. If you have an idea for a product, use Kim's book "Mommy Millionaire" as your how-to guide!

You can get it here.

Until next time...
Peter
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Friday, July 20, 2007

What's Peter reading now?

Hi Everyone,

It's time for my quarterly "what's Peter reading" e-mail.

I'm currently reading...
- Hit Me With Your Best Shot by Jackie Kallen
- Sport Marketing by Bernard Mullin
- The Public Image of Henry Ford by David Lewis
- The Most Evil Secret Societies in History by Shelley Klein
- Hypnotic Writing by Joe Vitale
- Selling the Dream by Guy Kawasaki

As I get ready for my next venture...the information in these books is proving priceless.

If you're thinking of starting a new business, you need to check out a great website I just came across here.

Enjoy!

Until next time...
Peter
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Thursday, July 12, 2007

11 reasons people fear speaking to large groups!



Hi Everyone,

Before, I go too far, realize that you are a successful public speaker. Let's make a quick distiction. We are all public speakers. We all speak outside our homes in mixed company. So yes, you are a public speaker and probably do not fear it much now, do you?

So, what you may fear, like many others, is speaking in front of large groups about a specific topic. Personally, I really enjoy speaking to large groups. Maybe it's ego, vanity, or just knowing that I have the attention of so many people for a short time. Ok, it's probably ego.

At the same time, I always speak on topics near and dear to me and understand them backward and forward.

So it always puzzles me why so many people are afraid to get up and speak in front of others.

I recently came across 11 common causes of public speaking stress - and they seem dead on from what people are always telling me...
- They believe public speaking is simply inherently stressful. (It's actually quite relaxing, even fun, when you get the hang of it.)
- Worried they need to be brilliant or perfect to succeed. (I haven't met anyone I would ever deem brilliant and certainly not perfect!)
- Trying to impart too much information or cover too many points in a short presentation. (Presentations should only cover a few points at the most, or you lose people.)
- They may have the wrong purpose in mind. (You always need to be clear about what you're speaking about and what you plan to get out of it.)
- They try to please everyone. (This will never happen. Just make sure you're audience even wants to here what you have to say or you may as well go home.)
- Some try to emulate other speakers rather than simply being themselves. (Being unique is a key to individual speaking success.)
- Some believe they are failing to be personally revealing and humble. (A few personal stories is good if it supports your topic. This adds more credibility to what your speaking about.)
- Many people are fearful of potential negative outcomes. (Most people will not give you enough attention for anything bad to happen. It's important to know your audience's hot buttons/issues and work with them. Remember, "This too shall come to pass.")
- Some try to control the behavior of their audience. (Some audiences will be better than others. At the end of the day you cannot control anything in this world!)
- Some spend too much time overpreparing instead of developing confidence and trust in their natural ability to influence. (If you know what you're talking about, this should not be an issue!)
- A lot of people think the audience will be overly critical of their performance. (Believe me, most people won't notice your minor slip ups and of those who do...few will care. We're all human right?)

Good points huh? Did you notice most are fear-based? Never let fear cloud a performance. Have fun and practice. And most of all...know your topic and know your audience! In time, you will come to love speaking in front of large groups!

Until next time...
Peter
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Monday, July 02, 2007

Patton's one minute message on eliminating fear!

Hi Everyone,

As you may already know, I'm a student of one of the greatest leaders ever to grace our planet...General George S. Patton!



I was reading a passage from one of his speeches that was so profound, I had to share it with you. It's called...Do Not Take Counsel of Your Fears!

He said...

"Although this may seem like a repeat of the "do not fear failure" maxim, it's vastly different in meaning and context. What this means is not to let your fears dictate your actions. If you fear that something might happen and you react to that fear and plan according to it, you are letting the fear control your actions and write your orders. At that point, you are no longer in control. Fear has taken control, and will make you do many stupid, irresponsible, and foolish things. If, however, you don't take counsel of your fears, you can make your own plans according to your own goals and objectives. Don't let yourself be fooled into fighting against fear instead of fighting against the enemy."

Need me or George say more?

For more of George S. Patton's one minute messages, you can purchase "Patton's One Minute Messages" here.

Until next time...
Peter
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Monday, June 25, 2007

How to spot a liar a mile away!

Hi Everyone,

Yes, I Peter Wink, am probably as cynical as anyone gracing this wonderful planet Earth! And yes, I'm darn proud of it! It serves me well!

I believe little of what I hear from people as most people tend to exaggerate, get their information from unreliable sources, misinterpret what they've been told, OUTRIGHT LIE, say things to satisfy their own agenda, lie for others, or have limited to zero knowledge to speak on a certain subject. Not to mention, most of the time, you'll find what people "say" and "do" are so contradictory, it's laughable! And you can take that to the bank!

So why the blog today? Good question!

I came across a great article that discusses how to spot liars. You can read it here! Check it out!



For even more on this topic, pick up my book, Negotiate Your Way to Riches here!

Until next time...
Peter
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Monday, June 18, 2007

The world's best sales letters now online!

Hi Everyone,

If you want to learn the keys to successful direct marketing - you need to learn from the best...the late Gary Halbert!



Gary, who was a dear old friend, unfortunately died in his sleep last Easter Sunday - luckily, he left a multitude of his most famous sales letters here. Check them out!

To Gary...RIP!

Until next time...
Peter
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Monday, June 04, 2007

Napoleon Hill's "Laws of Success" now online!

Hi Everyone,

I you want to learn a time-tested proven formula for success - that's been stolen and re-packaged by 99.9% of self-help authors - access Napoleon Hill's 16 Laws of Success by clicking here.

This was the basis for the best-selling book "Think and Grow Rich."



What's best --- THE LAWS OF SUCCESS ARE FREE!

Gotta run!

Until next time...
Peter
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Saturday, May 26, 2007

Have you graduated from TRUMP 101?

Hi Everyone,

I was just re-reading a really good book called...Trump 101. The latest book by the Donald.

If you do not have it...GET IT! This one is must reading for anyone in business or thinking of starting one.

Here is a great passage (edited for space) from this gem...

Think Trump Scale: Bigger is Better

Thinking small when you could think big limits you in all aspects of your life. People are capable of great things, but not if they don't envision themselves achieving greatness. Start with your own mindset.

Think about the goals you want and the steps you need to achieve them:
- Do you have big or small plans?
- What is limiting or holding you back?
- How can you expand your vision for the future?

You can develop an expansive mindset that lets you paint in bigger, bolder, more colorful strokes.


Here's how...
Before you start any venture, while it's still in the idea stage, imagine ways to increase its size, scale or scope. Don't worry about being realistic or practical.

Explore whether any of your ideas, or parts of them, could be achieved. Identify the hurdles that could stand in your way.

Examine how to overcome those obstacles and the costs it would take.

If the timing for your expanded vision isn't right, the cost is too steep or other challenges are just too great, consider implementing parts of your ideas that you can achieve now. File the rest away because things always change, and what can't be done today could be a piece of cake tomorrow.

More sage advice awaits you in Trump 101.

Buy it here.

Until next time...
Peter
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Thursday, May 17, 2007

Be yourself!

Hi Everyone,

As most of you know, I'm a die-hard reader of marketing and leadership books. In fact, other than family, my closest friends, and my fitness routine...marketing and leadership are my ONLY two passions.

So...when I come across something poignant, effective, and intelligent, that deals with leadership...I'm bursting at the seams to pass it on. And that's what I'm going to do. OK...let's cut through the bull and get to the good stuff!

I was re-reading a great book recently called "The Tao of Leadership" by John Heider which you can buy here.



In this awesome collection of sage writings, there is a little passage called "Being Oneself."

And it goes like this...

"The wise leader does not make a show of holiness or pass out grades for good performance. That would create a climate of success and failure. Competition and jealousy follow.

Emphasizing material success is the same: those who have a lot become greedy, and those who have little become thieves.

When you reinforce appearances, people scramble to please.

The wise leader pays respectful attention to all behavior.
Thus the group becomes open to more and more possibilities of behavior. People learn a great deal when they are open to everything and not just figuring out what pleases the teacher.

The leader shows that style is no substitute for substance, that knowing certain facts is not more powerful than simple wisdom, that creating an impression is not more potent than acting from one's center.

The students learn that effective action arises out of silence and a clear sense of being. In this they find a source of peace. They discover that the person who is down-to-earth can do what needs doing more effectively than the person who is merely busy."

You know those words are so powerful, it's scary.

Be careful who you follow in life. Most people unfortunately, are just out to satisfy their own weak agendas and could give two bits about you. That's a fact Jack! And always remember to watch what people do and believe little of what they say.

Try this...write down the next 10 things people tell you they are going to do. Give it a little time and then see what the results are. I'll guarantee that you'll be shocked at just how little is achieved.

And remember, most so-called Managers do NOT have a clue about what it really takes to lead people. Most are hand-picked empty suits (and dresses) with nothing more to show for themselves than a worthless college degree, poor family life, a bathroom cabinet full of today's most vogue pills, questionable political skills and a propensity to kiss the rear-end of someone they really loath. Gee...can I follow them?

Bottom line...to be a real leader, you must first be able to really lead yourself!

Until next time...
Peter
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Friday, May 11, 2007

They really don't have a clue!

Hi Everyone,

How many times have you asked someone a question and received some convoluted, non-sensical, off-the-subject answer? Did you ever ask someone a question and get Lincoln's Gettysburg Address for an answer? Or just had someone answer your question with another question? Whatever happened to answering a "yes/no" question with a "yes" or "no" answer? I'm going out on a limb here, and based on my own direct experience --- I'm guessing this happens to you often. You may not even be realizing it!



I did an experiment recently on some unaware business colleagues, family members, and friends. The result --- 2 out of 10 questions posed to them were either directly answered or answered with any sort of confidence. Yikes!

Some red flags answers included:
"I've heard...."
"They say..."
"I think..."

Or the famous..."I would..."

The challenge for me was that most of these questions were simple "no" or "yes" answers.

What am I ultimately saying here? Be careful who you take advice from. We've all heard the famous phrase about "the blind leading the blind!"

By analyzing these people over time, they all shared the same characteristics:
- Low self-confidence
- Wanted to appear smarter than they were on the subjects broached
- Felt the need to say something
- Did not want to feel stupid
- Actually believed what they said was helpful
- Were afraid of making mistakes
- Terrible, slow, decision makers (By the way...if your slow to make decisions...chances are you're not qualified to make it in the first place. Get a clue! If you can't tell, this is a huge pet peeve for me.)

Asking for advice is a true buying experience - even though money may not be what is being exchanged. Your trading your time and vulnerabilty for solid advice that you may base part of your future against.

I'll leave you with one of my favorite pessimistic/realistic phrases --- "BUYER BEWARE!"

Until next time...
Peter
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Friday, May 04, 2007

Now this is funny!

Hi Everyone,

A great friend sent this image to me today and I could not stop laughing.



And then it hit me like a ton of bricks...

The statement is more than profound - it's 100% true! Get moving with your life, take some risks and get the heck out of our comfort zone. As my good friend Joe "Mr.Fire" Vitale always says...DARE SOMETHING WORTHY!

Until next time...
Peter
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Saturday, April 28, 2007

Choice...it's yours!

Hi Everyone,

I was recently reading a phenomenal book called "The Best of Success" by Wynn Davis.



I've owned this book of success quotes for over 17 years and grab it off the shelf every couple months.

Today...I came to a passage called "Choice."

It said, "Your greatest power is the power to choose. You can decide where you are, what you do and what you think. No one can take the power to choose away from you. It's yours alone. You can do what you want to do. You can be who you want to be."

A famous business philosopher name Bob Proctor once told me that if people realized that they could change anything at a moment's notice, there lives would feel so much more fulfilled.

I want to leave you with a quote from the late insurance magnate, billionaire, W. Clement Stone. Stone said, "You can always do what you want to do. This is true with every act. You may say that you had to do something or that you were forced to, but actually whatever you do, you do by choice. Only you have the power to choose for yourself."

What are you choosing to do with your life and career? Think about it.

Until next time...
Peter
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Friday, April 20, 2007

Tips on Tipping!

Hi Everyone,

I'm not a big fan of going with the flow or listening to what other people tell me are the "norms" in life. In fact...I HATE norms.

The one thing I do agree with is providing a good tip to someone for a job well done. Unfortunately, a bunch of cheapskate, low-life employers refuse to pay their employees livable wages, so they expect the public to pick up the slack by paying tips.

Here are my personal recommendations for tipping...
- Porters/Bellhops: $1.00 per bag
- Car/Limo Drivers: 10%. If they give you a guided tour...now they've added value...so go 20%.
- Shuttle Bus Drivers: $2.00 per person.
- Maids: $2.00 per night.
- Conceirge: $5.00-$10.00 per favor.
- Room Service: 15% (and it's usually already in the bill!)
- Waitors/Waitresses: 10-15% depending on level of service. Bad attitude...ZERO!
- Maitre d: $5.00-$10.00 for a great table.
- Coat Attendant: $1.00 per coat.
- Valet: $2.00 per vehicle.
- Restroom Attendant: $1.00 flat.
- Doorman: $1.00 for cabs and $1.00 per bag.
- Wine Steward: 10% of the wine bill.
- Tour Guides: $5.00 per person.
- Coffeehouse Attendant: $1.00 per order.
- Hair Stylist: 10-15% of total bill.
- Beautician: 10-15% of total bill.
- Massage Therapist: 10% of the cost of the service.

And remember...a tip is not a given. If you get bad service, do not give any tip. Some people are rude, obnoxious, and have an entitlement attitude. Do not give in to them!

Until next time...
Peter
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Thursday, April 12, 2007

Good bye Kurt!

Hi Everyone,

The few free thinkers left in the the world lost a dear friend today...Kurt Vonnegut. All I can say is that I was speechless after hearing the news.



Kurt Vonnegut, whose dark, satirical vision in works including "Slaughterhouse-Five" and "Cat's Cradle" was shaped by the horrors he witnessed during World War II, has died at age 84.

Vonnegut died on Wednesday after suffering brain injuries following a fall weeks ago, said Donald Farber, Vonnegut's friend, lawyer, agent and manager.

Vonnegut wrote plays, essays and short fiction, but his 14 novels were classics of the American counterculture, resonating with the U.S. antiwar sentiment during the Vietnam War era.

The author's Web site, updated after his death, displayed a simple black-and-white image of a bird cage -- a symbolic element in his writing -- empty with an open door. "Kurt Vonnegut, Jr. 1922-2007," the page read.

"He was a beautiful man," Farber said. "I never hung up the phone without having laughed, he always left me laughing, no matter what the circumstances of the world."

"I last spoke to him the day he fell," Farber said. "He was in good spirits. Every time he spoke with me no matter what the circumstances in the world, he had a funny angle on it even if it wasn't a funny thing."

Despite battles with severe depression, Vonnegut was known for his witticisms.

"I've had a hell of a good time," Vonnegut once wrote. "I tell you, we are here on Earth to fart around, and don't let anybody tell you any different."

Irwyn Applebaum, president of the Bantam Dell publishing division of Random House, said, "By all counts he was one of the great writers of the 20th Century and continued to be one of the great writers in the 21st Century."

Bantam Dell publishes some of the author's seminal works, including "Breakfast of Champions," "Slaughterhouse-Five" and "Cat's Cradle," which made him a literary idol in the 1960s and 1970s, especially to students.

A defining event in Vonnegut's life was the firebombing of Dresden, Germany by Allied Forces in 1945, which he witnessed as a young prisoner of war. The bombing killed tens of thousands of people, mostly civilians.

Dresden was the basis for "Slaughterhouse-Five," published in 1969 against the backdrop of war in Vietnam, racial unrest and cultural and social upheaval.

"There is nothing intelligent to say about a massacre," Vonnegut wrote.

Vonnegut became a cult hero when the novel reached No. 1 on bestseller lists and even more popular among many young Americans when some schools and libraries banned the book for its sexual content, rough language and depictions of violence.

The novel featured a signature Vonnegut phrase, "so it goes," which became a catch phrase for Vietnam war opponents.

After the book was published, Vonnegut went into severe depression and vowed never to write another novel. In 1984, he tried to take his life with sleeping pills and alcohol. His mother had herself committed suicide.

Vonnegut mixed fiction and autobiography in his work, which also blended elements of science fiction and touched on authoritarianism and the dehumanization of man by technology.

Fans said he invented a new literary type but some critics accused him of recycling themes and characters.

"Cat's Cradle" was published in 1963 and initially sold only about 500 copies but it remains widely read today in high school English classes.

Vonnegut's last book, published in 2005, was a collection of biographical essays, "A Man Without a Country."

A fourth-generation German-American who was born in Indianapolis, Vonnegut is survived by his second wife photographer Jill Krementz, their daughter and his six other children. Two of his children are published authors.

Until next time...
Peter
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Wednesday, April 11, 2007

Great success video!

Hi Everyone,

I recently found this video of Paul Heyman, Chairman & CEO, Extreme Championship Wrestling.

It talks about the relationship between success and failure. The video is only :50 seconds - yet life-changing.

Check it out here.

Gotta run!

Until next time...
Peter
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Friday, April 06, 2007

It's my blog and I'll say what I want!

Hi Everyone,

Every week I get various comments from people about something I wrote in my blog or posted on someone elses.

Most comments are great, some are good, some are questionable, while others are pretty vulgar. By the way...vulgar can be "so hot." Oops...sorry for the Paris Hilton momentary lapse of reason.

Overall...I think ALL comments are terrific because if people are talking about you-somewhere in life you're making an impact or creating some sort of difference of opinion. Just my sort of thing! I love creating chaos, synergy, debate, and difference of opinion. That creates thought kiddies! After all...if the world was just like me...life could get pretty dull! Or would it?

PLEASE NOTE...I will say whatever I want, to whoever I want, whenever I want...with no regrets. I hide from nobody! If I have something to say - it gets said. I fear nobody or their cowardly, anonymous opinions. I welcome them! Just do me a favor and make a point and be able to defend it!

With that in mind...feel free to leave a comment about me, my blog, my books, or anything else. Also...free to also visit me on mySpace or on PeterWink.com.

Ok...now that I've shocked you with a double blog today, I'm going to shoot my newest video blog.

Until next time...
Peter
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Attention to those up-and-coming backstabees!

Hi Everyone,

Ok...I LOVE the book..."What Would Machiavelli Do? - The Ends Justify The Meanness" by the great Stanley Bing!



This is MUST READING for anyone in the ruthless world of corporate backstabbing. Which by the way ... if you have a job ... definitely includes you. And if you think your job or company is an exception ... you need this book more than most!

OK pundits...

Here is one of the gems in this little goldmine of wisdom...

He Would Feast On Other People's Discord

How do you get people to do what you want? More importantly, how do you force people who work for you to be loyal to you, only to you, and not develop some sniveling affection for one another that transcends their fealty to you, their God?

You set them at one another. And watch them rip out one another's throats in an effort to please you better.

They call it "creative tension," which is as good a name as any for making normally productive people turn into vicious, snarling engines.

Try these five things to help them get on each other's nerves:
- Invite select associates to some meetings, while excluding others. Do not be consistent. Create a continuous sense of uncertainty in people around you about whether they are in or out.
- Assign the same task to different people without telling them you have done so. Let them find it out for themselves.
- Talk about others to their peers. Sometimes you can compliment them, sometimes you can bitch about them. Create the feeling in all people that you're willing to talk about them behind their backs, and pretty candidly, too.
- Be very clear in discussions that someone else's priority has effectively killed those of their peers. "I would have the time/money/interest in that, Fred, but Betty's project got in first/looks better/is more interesting."
- Praise people publically in a way that shames others. "If all of you had Bob's moxie/brians/contacts, we'd be doing better," you might say. Direct praise that does not involve the degradation of others is virtually worthless.

What you want is an atmosphere of high-energy, cutthroat rivalry among those who surround you. This focuses all activity in the neighborhood on your approval. All action, no matter how smart or lucrative, is valued only if it meets with your strong approval and places the actor one notch up on his associates.

Machiavelli may have said this years ago. And it's as true as ever. People do this and much worse things everyday at the office. The worst part is that you may not even see it. Get a step up in the workplace and buy this little gem.

You can get it here.

Ok...on to filming my next videoblog!

Until next time...
Peter
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Friday, March 30, 2007

Why you should write your obituary...WHILE YOU'RE ALIVE!

Hi Everyone,

If you're in a rut and having trouble discovering what you want to do with your life, consider writing your own obituary.

Is it morbid? Maybe! But who cares...sometimes in life you have get out of your comfort zone and get creative to make things happen.

Here's how it works.

Ask yourself the question..."HOW DO I WANT TO BE REMEMBERED?"

This will force you to look at your life from a big picture perspective. Then take the accomplishments you listed and make them your goals.

Here's my latest example...

PETER RONALD WINK (XX), an accomplished promoter, passed away unexpectedly on XXX, in Los Angeles, CA. He was born on July 30, 1966 in Chicago, IL to Ronald and Stephanie Wink. Peter was a devoted, loyal and loving husband, son, uncle, and friend. He has been active in the American Marketing Association, Illinois ArmWrestling Federation, and served several homeowner's associations. Peter was also a philanthopist who donated to children's fitness charities and opened his own library dedicated to self-help. Peter was also a recording artist, talk show host, author, public speaker, fitness enthusiast, and a top sports marketer. He loved loud music, drumming, singing, the outdoors, bike riding, fast cars, pro wrestling, ultimate fighting, Tae Kwon Do, and helping others. Peter lived life each day and fully appreciated everything around him. He was always an optimist with an off-beat sense of humor who chose his friends wisely. Peter was deeply loved and will be missed by his family, friends and all whose lives he touched. He is survived by his loving wife Stephanie. Friends and family in Chicago are encouraged to celebrate his passing as just another chapter in the Peter Wink journey. There will be no service, funeral, or any of that kind of trash. Just remember him, look up, and give him a "Wink."

This is how I want to be remembered as of today. As you can see...some of these things I've accomplished and some have yet to be realized. You have to start somewhere!

So get writing!

Until next time...
Peter
http://www.peterwink.com/

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