Is winning any indication of growth? Maybe! Maybe not!

Hi Everyone,

Is "victory" really an indication of growth and success?

Not necessarily! It really depends on the quality of your competition.

That's right! To truly be successful you need to push yourself in every area of your life.

Part of this is getting around people who are playing in business and in life at a much higher level than you are. If you're running 10ks and want to run marathons - you have to get around marathon runners. If you want to become a millionaire - start hanging around and learning from people earning over a million dollars a year. If you want to speak more eloquently - get around eloquent speakers. I think you get the message.

I know people who hang around with, and compete against people inferior to them in different ways - so they can temporarily feel superior. This does not make people winners. It really makes them losers - and deep down they know it!

Remember - there are two ways to build a taller building. 1. Knock down someone elses (loser's approach), or 2. Build the bigger building (winner's approach).

Personally, I'd rather lose to someone much better than me - than win against someone inferior.
Let your victories be real and your losses an indicator of how much further you need to push.

"Grow" or "perish"...the choice is yours!

Until next time...
Peter
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Use this strategy and save BIG money!

Hi Everyone,

Did you know that by eliciting one of my favorite negotiation strategies you can save BIG money no matter what you purchase?

It's true!

The strategy is called "Never Take the First Offer or Counteroffer" – This is simply refusing to accept the “other side’s” first offer or counteroffer.

Before I go too far here, you have to understand that most companies build huge profit margins into their products and services. This is how they make money! Therefore, there’s still room in the asking price for a little savvy bargaining.

Let’s look at an example from the wonderful world of contractors.

Anytime you get a bid on construction work, you can be assured the contractor built in a HUGE profit margin. Almost 100% of the time, you can refuse their first bid and they’ll immediately submit a new bid with a lower price. My advice is to refuse the second bid as well. Say, “That isn’t within our budget” or “At that price, we’re forced to request further bids from other companies.” Bottom line…test them!

Test them and see if they come at you with a third or fourth counteroffer. Most of the time, you’ll get at least one counteroffer. Usually two! They won’t admit it, but believe me when I say...they want your business every bit as much as you need them to do the work!

And always turn down initial counteroffers!

Always remember…the person making the first offer takes the risk of being rejected and helps the “other side” establish their negotiation strategy. Remember...never make the first offer!







To learn more negotiating strategies, please pick up a copy of my book "Negotiate Your Way to Riches" by going to http://www.amazon.com/dp/1564146901?tag=peterwinkscom-20&camp=14573&creative=327641&linkCode=as1&creativeASIN=1564146901&adid=0S1Q9NATJR651KBJJJ40

Until next time...
Peter
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Conquer worry once and for all!

Hi Everyone,

Dale Carnegie is best known as a genius communicator and the author of the bestseller, "How to Win Friends And Influence People." What you may not know is that he was also brilliant when it came to the mind/body connection.

That said...Dale Carnegie's best book actually be a little-known work of art called "How To Stop Worrying And Start Living." In this book, he talks all about how to keep from worrying yourself into an early grave and embrace the day.

One part of this masterpiece book talks about breaking the worry "habit." Most of us are guilty of utilizing this habit from time-to-time. Some of us do this all the time!

When I start to worry about something, I refer to Dale Carnegie's 6 rules for breaking the worry habit...
Rule #1: Crowd worry out of your mind by keeping busy. Plenty of action is one of the best therapies ever devised for curing "wibber gibbers."
Rule #2: Don't fuss about trifles. Don't permit little things - the termites of life - to ruin your happiness.
Rule #3: Use the law of averages to outlaw your worries. Ask yourself, "What are the odds against this thing happening at all?"
Rule #4: Cooperate with the inevitable. If you know a circumstance is beyond your power to change or revise, say to yourself: "It is so, it cannot be otherwise."
Rule #5: Put a stop-loss order on your worries. Decide just how much anxiety a thing may be worth - and refuse to give it anymore.
Rule #6: Let the past bury it's head. Don't saw sawdust.

I usually have another saying that I refer to..."This too shall come to pass."

In closing, don't sweat the little stuff. In fact, don't sweat the big stuff. Life's too short - live every day like it could be your last. It just may be!

Until next time...
Peter
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To be an effective communicator...you NEED this!

Hi Everyone,

A great orator once said...your ability to communicate with others is only as good as the depth of your vocabulary. I think there's a lot of truth to that statement. After all...the more words you know - the more things you can say in more ways!

I personally have completed vocabulary programs like Vocab from the Nightingale-Conant Corporation and the world famous Verbal Advantage. Both were very insightful. They both also took a great deal of time and commitment. Now there's a better way to learn!

If you want a simple way to improve your vocabulary every day, please go to...
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Here you can sign up to have a word-a-day sent directly to your e-mail box.

That's 365 words to learn every year! Talk about an advantage for communication! You'll also be able to read faster with more accuracy.

Oh well...time to go to work on my new book. Time to use some of those new words!

Until next time...
Peter
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Have you discovered this temple?

Hi Everyone,

Did you know there's a place where you can learn just about anything you want?

Want to get rich? Start a new career? Learn a new skill? Discover someone's life story? Embrace the newest technology? No problem - it's all here! And there's so much more!

Where is this temple? It's probably no more than 10 minutes from your home...your local library!

That's right...the key to the treasure chest is right in front of you. The question is...will you take the key and grab the booty. I personally visit the library almost every weekend. Just this week, I picked up 15 new music & audiobook CDs to listen to while I'm getting ready in the morning, as well as picking up books on a host of terrific topics including podcasting, economics, trends, sales, cults, and a biography of one of my personal heroes...robber baron & corporate raider Jay Gould.
The library can be worth millions to you if you take advantage of all it has to offer. If you do not have one, get a library card today, and start your new journey. The skies the limit when it comes to learning.

This morning, a good friend of mine e-mailed me a quote from Benjamin Disraeli that says it all - "Nurture your mind with great thoughts, for you will never go any higher than you think."

What do you want to think about today? Are your thoughts taking you higher or pushing you down? Are you growing or eroding? Living every day to it's fullest or sitting on your rear complaining and doing nothing? The choice is always yours! Like Earl Nightingale says, "You become what you think about."

Get in your car and check out your local library. Take an hour or so and just peruse the shelves - you may find a book that sets your sail toward a new frontier. You never know until you try.

Think BIG!

Until next time...
Peter
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Patton said it best!

Hi Everyone,

I was re-reading one of my FAVORITE books the other day called "Patton on Leadership." This book talks about Patton's military strategies and how they translate to success in your life.

One of my favorite passages is called "Keep Moving."

Patton's quote says "When you dig a fox hole, you dig your grave!"

I like this quote because it reminds me to keep progressing and stop waiting for the perfect time to do or accomplish something. Digging a fox hole is like digging your own grave. Wow...that's food for thought!

Patton goes on to describe how the winning attitude is one of movement and progress, not digging in and just holding your ground. Defensive postures are illusions both in war and in daily life. While digging in may make you feel safe - you have in all reality transformed yourself into a stationary target. Action is preferable to inaction. Remember...the journey of a thousand miles begins with one small step. I did not run 26.2 miles in a marathon - I ran 1 mile 26.2 times - same result - better psychology! And then repeated it 5 times.

So I ask you to ponder the questions: Am I digging a daily foxhole and deluding myself into believing I'm playing it safe? Or am I taking immediate decisive action EVERYDAY that's bringing me closer to my dreams and goals.

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Until next time...
Peter

PS...End this question (to yourself) ---- If I knew it was impossible to fail, I would XXXXXXXX. This may tell you a lot about yourself and what you should be pursuing.

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Discover the latest revelation in learning and entertainment!

Hi Everyone,

Now that my new website at www.peterwink.com is up and running...the questions are pouring in!

A reader wrote and asked me what podcasting is and how they can download the latest and greatest podcasts.

Well first and foremost, come October, you'll be able to get podcasts of the Peter Wink Self Development Show featuring seminars and interviews on a multitude of self help, health, and business topics. So stay tuned for a surprise sneak peak sometime very soon!

For now...here's the definition of podcast right from Wikipedia...

Podcasting is the method of distributing multimedia files, such as audio or video programs, over the Internet using syndication feeds, for playback on mobile devices and personal computers. The term (a portmanteau), was coined in 2004 combining "iPod", a popular portable audio device, and "broadcasting."

The term podcast, like 'radio', can mean both the content and the method of delivery. The host or author of a podcast is often called a podcaster. Though podcasters' web sites may also offer direct download or streaming of their content, a podcast is distinguished from other formats by its ability to be downloaded automatically using software capable of reading feeds like RSS or Atom.

Usually a podcast features one type of 'show', with new episodes released either sporadically or at planned intervals such as daily or weekly. In addition, there are podcast networks that feature multiple shows on the same feed.

My two favorite podcasting sites include...
- www.apple.com/itunes/podcasts/
- www.podcast.net

There are many more. If you find one you like, please post it to this blog.

Until next time...
Peter

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Why you need to be paranoid!

Hi Everyone,

This may prove to be the single most important article you ever read for the rest of your life...so listen up and listen good!

I just finished re-reading one of my favorite books called...What Would Machiavelli Do? "The Ends Justify The Meanness."

In this little gem of a book...there's an absolutely phenomenal chapter called “He would be, for the most part, a paranoid freak.”

It starts out with a quote from Intel’s Chairman, Andy Grove, stating --- “I attribute Intel’s ability to sustain success to being constantly on the alert for threats, either technological or competitive in nature. The word paranoia is meant to suggest that attitude, an attitude that constantly looks over the horizon for threats to your success.”

Re-read that a few times until it really sinks in! Now re-read it again!

What it says is that in business…managed paranoia is a serious strategy for success and for those below the “C” level…it’s a crucial survival tactic!

Sane paranoia is made up of…
- Mistrust of others. Beware of your so-called friends and supporters. They’re just as apt as your enemies to stomp all over you for that big promotion or get saved during a downsizing.
- Hatred of the enemy. Remember…they want you dead in the water. Fight with all you have!!!!!
- Organizing those around you to meet your needs. I’m not going to go into this as it should be obvious to you. There’s safety in psychologically managing the “little” people.

A true survivor does the following whether they admit it to you or not…
- Always have a group of henchman (or women for you politically correct people), sycophants, and other flatters to be their eyes and ears and do their dirty work.
- Cultivates the heart of a killer. I don’t mean they literally kill people. They’re just willing to stomp all over those pitiful few who do not serve their agenda. And stomp and stomp and stomp some more until your gone my friend!
- Tend to drink or have some other vices that take their mind off of their physically and mentally debilitating daily tasks.

I’m not trying to encourage you to be like Machiavelli or admit as to whether you're like him. I could honestly care less. Heck…who am I to judge you anyway. I have enough of my own issues.

All I’m trying to do is give you a dose reality as to how the real world works. If you work in a corporate setting…be careful and watch for the big bad wolf. I can assure you they’re lurking closer to you than you think.

I think I should trademark a "Got Paranoia?" t-shirt.

Remember my dear friends...Be paranoid! Love you all!

Until next time…
Peter

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What questions are you asking yourself?

Hi Everyone,

Today's blog covers one of my favorite topics...the power of questions and life change.

I'm not talking about the questions people ask you - I'm talking about the questions you ask yourself on a daily basis.

The questions you ask yourself will reveal alot about what you get in your life. After all...no matter what question you ask yourself - you're mind will come up with an answer.

Most people ask themselves negative unproductive questions, such as "Why does this always happen to me?", "Why am I always sick?" or "Why am I always broke?" Focusing on these types of questions are sure to get you negative answers everytime!

Why not focus on asking yourself positive, reaffirming questions like "How can I get healthier?", "How can I lose weight starting today?" or "How can I earn more more money?"

How about starting the day with questions like...
- What am I happy about in my life right now?
- What am I most grateful for?
- What's good about my job or business?

After all, it takes the same amount of energy to ask a negative or positive question. Why not ask a productive question that will get you a better result?

Remember, the law of attraction - what you focus on with clear intent, will become your reality. If you focus on good health - you'll attract a healthier lifestyle - if you focus on bigger earnings - you'll attract the ways and means to a bigger income - if you focus on building healthier relationships - you'll attract people to have healthy relationships with.

Here's the reverse - if you're a poor earner, the chances are 100% that you focus on the lack of money. The law of attraction says that when you think of the lack of money with clear intent - that's what you get. You cannot avoid it - it's the law of the universal energy around you. If you're constantly sick - you focus on lack of health. This is the way it works folks. This is why people who truly have money rarely discuss it - they just go about their business with a prosperity mentality - not needing to try to impress anyone else or change the minds of naysayers. The rich tend to spend their time with other prosperity seekers - not the complainers. Oh sure - they may listen to naysayers a time or two - yet deep down they will do what it takes to ultimately avoid naysayers like the plague.

Remember the old saying about computers - "garbage in - garbage out." Your mind works the same way.

If this describes you, stop complaining, stop feeling sorry for yourself and get off your rear end and ask yourself productive questions that will get you the results you want. If you need answers to questions you do not know the answers to...get your butt over to the local library and get help. Stop making excuses...me and the rest of the world don't want to hear it!

If you want to learn more about the power of questions and/or how to experience dramatic lasting life changes, please pick up a copy of one of my favorite books called "Awaken the Giant Within" by Anthony Robbins. To order, click here...
http://www.amazon.com/Awaken-Giant-Within-Immediate-Emotional/dp/0671791540/sr=1-3/qid=1157385493/ref=pd_bbs_3/002-2345578-1700851?ie=UTF8&s=books

Now you have no excuses. In the words of NIKE...JUST DO IT!

Until next time...
Peter

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Attention fellow communicators!!!!!!

Hi Everyone,

Here's a very valuable piece of advice from someone who made this mistake...

DO NOT USE A SMALL WEB HOSTING COMPANY TO PURCHASE YOUR DOMAIN NAME AND/OR HOST YOUR INTERNET SITE!

Here's what can happen to you...
1. The reseller drops dead! What are you going to do to get your files and domain back in a timely fashion?
2. The reseller/provider gets disgruntled with you because you want to move to another provider or for some other silly reason. They can and more than likely will shut down your service and create an issue with you re-routing your domain and name servers. This can take days. Bottom line...this happened to me!
3. Domain re-sellers name themselves as the administrative, billing, and technical contact on your account - which in essence makes them the registered entity for your domain! Even though you may have paid for use of your domain - according to the registrars - you're s**t out of luck my friend!

Here are some tips to avoid this mess...
1. Purchase your domain through a reputable company like IPower www.ipower.com or www.register.com.
2. Always name yourself as the billing, administrative, and technical contact for your domain! Do not put anyone else on your account. This is what ultimately saved my butt!
3. Get the passwords for your domain account so you can re-route your domain and change name servers at any time. This is HUGE!
4. Only purchase web hosting from a large company with great references!
5. Make sure your web hosting company has 24-hour customer/technical service providers! All the good ones offer "live chat" services! (None of this we're closed after 6pm BS.) The internet is open 24/7 - so should they! Period...end of story.

I know it's tempting to use a small provider to save a few bucks - and it's not worth it my friend. Web hosting has become very inexpensive and easy to get no matter how big or small your business. The guy sitting in his underwear, running a small web hosting company from his bedroom or co-locating his servers elsewhere has become passe'. This type of provider just doesn't cut it nowadays.

Take it from me as I just went through a similar issue. Spend the few dollars or so a month and get quality service.

My recommendation is to use the services of IPower at www.ipower.com for ALL your internet e-mail and website needs. I get NOTHING for recommending them. I'm just very impressed with all their services and can tell you first hand - this is a quality organization with tremendous customer service!

Also, as an aside...make sure to purchase your domain name as soon as possible! If your name is William Boone...do not hesitate to purchase williamboone.com. Anyone who's anyone will have their own website up in the next couple years. Do not risk someone else buying your name...get yours today by clicking here...
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Until next time...
Peter

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